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Happy World Goth Day. :)

All throughout my life, I've had people think they needed to save me. But here I am, saving myself every day.

There are phrases I feel people are often quick to utter without really thinking about the situation. When folks say sorry but don't work to change the thing that is requiring that apology? That apology becomes more about manipulation than anything else. Work to avoid needing to say I'm sorry. That's valuable work. But if you mess up? Saying I'm sorry just to end the conflict is manipulation. Do the work. Mean your words.

Makeup and hair by the absolutely astonishing @nicolegmakeupartist. Helping me keep this crown on straight, folks. 👑👑👑 Hair color by @geeksgetglam Hair conditioner by @overtonecolor

Just a queen doing queen shit at my castle. Typical Thursday.

She is such a beauty. Finishing up my witch sleeve with @a_alonzi at @communiontattoo.

Yesterday was a rough day. I'm the type of person who will keep fighting for a solution other than quitting (what I perceive as quitting) or walking away. I am a problem solver. I believe I can fix anything. This makes things particularly challenging when it comes to people. I see the very best in people. Who they are and who they can be. I'm that friend who will also push you to be great. And I'm honest about that. We all have our strengths. I'm that friend who will help you reach your fullest potential. But not everyone wants that, needs that, or can actualize it. And that's real. Too real. As I bumped into my fairemily at Scarborough yesterday, it allowed me to recalibrate and recognize what really has value in my life at this point. Because in end we should always make sure everything has value. But it's more than that. Not all value is created equally. For me? I need to adjust my priorities and make sure I'm not just surviving. I'm thriving. Especially with my emotional well-being, mental well-being, spiritual well-being, physical well-being. I am ready to thrive.

Renaissance faire is like a second home to me. The day started off tremendously rough but once I got here... all was forgotten.

This is something I think about often throughout the day. That email or IM response. Does it have value? That choice I'm about to make. Does it have value? This conversation, this friendship, this person, this decision. So much of my life has been about being right. It was a hard lesson to learn that being right isn't always the most important thing.